Homosexuality is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between members of the same sexor gender. As a sexual orientation, homosexuality is "an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions" to people of the same sex. It "also refers to a person's sense of identity based on those attractions, related behaviors, and membership in a community of others who share those attractions."In helping people overcome homosexuality, we've found that many are in confusion about what homosexuality actually is. There is no agreement among either the scientific community, religious groups or homosexual people themselves as to the definition of homosexuality.We've found this to be a good working definition, though a full explanation of the condition of homosexuality goes much deeper.
Born Gay Or Lesbian?
The majority of homosexuals believe they were born "gay or Lesbian." This belief often supplies them with comfort, relieving them of any responsibility to change. However, there is no solid scientific evidence that people are born homosexual. The overwhelming majority of gay people are completely normal genetically. They are fully male or female. Learned Behavior We believe homosexuality is learned behavior which is influenced by a number of factors:
►A disrupted family life in early years,
►A lack of unconditional love on the part of either parent
►A failure to identify with the same-sex parent.
Later, these problems can result in a search for love and acceptance, envy of the same or the opposite sex, a life controlled by various fears and feelings of isolation. One thing that does seem clear: homosexuality is brought about by a multitude of root causes. It is simplistic thinking to lay the blame on any single area. Fears of the opposite sex, incest, or molestation, dominant mothers and weak fathers, demonic oppression: all of these may play a part in causing homosexuality, but no individual factor alone can cause it. Along with outside factors in a person's life, his own personal choices have played a key role in forming and shaping his homosexual identity, though few will admit this. The Four Components of Homosexuality The problem of homosexuality involves much more than simply a sexual act. Those caught up in this sin usually have entered the homosexual lifestyle to some degree. To better understand the circumstances of the homosexual person seeking help,
We've divided homosexuality into four components: behavior, psychic response, identity and lifestyle. Behavior. Often, it is assumed that all homosexual people engage in homosexual acts, but this is not always the case. Because of fears or strong religious convictions, some may refrain from sexual behavior, yet experience an intense battle with homosexual attractions. Another wrong assumption is that all people who engage in homosexual acts are homosexual. There are huge numbers of heterosexual men who engage in homosexual acts for a variety of reasons, such as being in prison or anywhere where heterosexual sex is unavailable. Also, we do not believe that a child who is involved in homosexual acts early in life will necessarily become homosexual unless these acts fulfill needs that are not being met in other ways, such as needs for love, acceptance, security and significance.
A child may start out with a need to compare himself with others to see if he measures up to societal standards. When he feels he doesn't compare favorably with others, he develops admiration for those traits and physical characteristics he feels he does not possess. Admiration, which is normal, may turn to envy. Envy leads to the desire to possess others and finally, to consume others. This strong desire becomes eroticized somewhere along the way, eventually leading to homosexual psychic response. As psychic response begins to grip someone's life, a certain amount of scheming takes place. Sexual situations are pictured in the mind. When the first sexual encounter takes place, it may be the result of several years of planning and fantasy. However, homosexual behavior can precede psychic response, which may develop as a conditioned response to pleasant encounters with those of the same sex. Identity. Some people enter into homosexuality through "identity". These are people who may not have experienced sexual attraction for the same sex or have had any homosexual encounters.
However, from an early age, they have felt they were "different" from other people. They feel abnormal, like they do not fit into the heterosexual world.A person troubled with shyness, fear of the opposite sex, lack of athletic or social skills need not accept the label "homosexual." However, people do grow into labels. Once a label is accepted, the implied characteristics of that label begin to develop in a person's life. What we believe about ourselves is of extreme importance. Lifestyle. A homosexual may insist that he bears no responsibility for his identity, his psychic response or even his first sexual encounter, which may have been forced upon him.
Homosexuality Counselling and Mediation:
We provide Gay and Lesbian specific counselling and mediation services. The issues of the Gay and Lesbian Community include things that most people experience in life but extend beyond that to include issues of exclusion, homophobia, misrepresentation and a continued lack of equality in a range of areas. If you are trying to work out your sexuality or feel confused we can support you through this process. We can assist you if you are planning to start a family by helping you to plan and discuss the potential challenges and prepare your relationship. If you are having difficulties in your relationship we can assist you to address your concerns or manage separation with a child focus. Services include:
►Mediation and Family Dispute Resolution
►Coming Out Groups
►Parents of Gay and Lesbian young people and adults
►Therapeutic and Social Groups for Women
►Couples preparing to start a Family